We have all heard of, or maybe even known, that person in the neighborhood who until the moment they passed away we had no idea they were so charitable. Then slowly the quiet chatter rose about all the lives they had touched. We didn’t know they were the ones responsible for the new roof on the Smith house and for seeing that Mr. Jones made it to his chemotherapy appointments every Thursday.
We learned only after they passed, they had silently given to this charity or quietly helped a neighbor without seeking praise. They were regular people who didn’ stand out much, but we knew who they were because we were friends and neighbors. Maybe we had dinner at their house, or our kids went to 4-H together.
They were humble in their living. They weren’t seeking public adulation; they were seeking only to be their best self.
2020 had more than enough narcissistic personalities posting all their good deeds on Facebook or Twitter. Both have become prime platforms for virtue signalers who, make you feel more assaulted than uplifted.
As we leave the dumpster fire that was 2020 behind us. Can we also throw off the covid-madness along with the hordes of people who have embraced “fear” as a virtue? While we are at it, can we also stop with the need to “one-up” or “be right” in our debates with friends and strangers?
Can we stop seeing people who disagree with us as the enemy? Can we scroll on by without making a negative comment that devolves into a personal attack? Can we reclaim the ability to debate the issue not the person?
Can we teach the value of living a humble life of obscurity? Can we re-learn and more importantly re-embrace, that living an “average” life is not a bad thing. Most of us ARE average, not everyone really gets a trophy.
Can we enter 2021 promising to teach our young people (maybe ourselves) how to be able to sit in silence and figure out how to turn it into an experience?
I’m in no way suggesting learning to live a compliant existence, especially during these tyrannical times. We should be raging against that every day. We can fight authoritarians while reclaiming humble living.
If we learned one thing about 2020 is that we did our children a disservice when we allowed them, even encouraged them to live lives in constant motion. Our young people are unprepared to sit quietly and find something simple and fulfilling to do.
From my observations, it’s the popular child with all the friends, attending every event, active in sports or music, etc. who has suffered the most in 2020. Why? We haven’t taught them the value of “doing nothing.”
Boomers know what I’m talking about. Our parents didn’t run us everywhere. We maybe, got to join a sport and do something away from home on the weekend. Parents are supposed to be raising functioning, useful adults not social media influencers.
Our generation would say “I’m bored” and be told “find something to do.” We only had one television with three television stations airing programs for adults. Kids had TV for three hours on the weekend. Our one and only phone was tethered to the wall by a short cord and it was for emergencies or finalizing plans, not marathon conversations. There were no computers or video games to occupy our down time. We had to use our imaginations if we didn’t want to be “bored.”
Miraculously we managed to not only survive but to create and imagine all sorts of things to bring joy and meaning into our empty space.
Our family lives weren’t centered around school and school sponsored events, they centered around friends, family and church relationships.
In 2021 I resolve to reject the “woke” and angry mobs centering their lives around the destruction of America and American culture. I resolve to embrace the value in living a humble, joyful life centered around American values and the traditions of family, friends and spiritual relationships.
Today is Freedom Day, let’s reclaim it.
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